The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan Part 2.

Disclaimer: Actually there is none because this is going to offend 97% people I know who are currently or already in the ‘Kakak-kakak Tunang/Kahwin Clan’. Sorry, I am not sorry at all. This does not apply to families with only one child or to the oldest child in the family because I understand the excitement that comes with it.

After The Kakak-Kakak Tunang/Wedding Clan Part 1 post, I am surprised some of us Modern Malay Girls (MMGs) still have a lot of common sense in us (yay us!). I, of course, am going to continue this pedih post for those who are still hung up on your very own The Modern Malay Engagement. Please, by all means, because my classy, chic engagement (did I just reveal something here? Stay tuned to the end of the post) is going to be just The Engagement.

I have made many online friends on Instagram (@mypussykatt) and was crazy enough to plan meet-ups with some of them. I am very lucky to have met such awesome bunch of girls. They have sort of become my SOS girly friends when I need a girl’s opinions (yes, I am one of those girls whose best friend is a guy). The rest are just known as Instagram-people. Recently, I have seen some got hitched, some got engaged, some got in a relationship, some doubting their boyfriends, some are in the midst of their wedding/engagement preparations, some just broke up and some got dumped. You name it; it is all over the internet. I guess some girls didn’t get the memo about airing their dirty laundry (I am not talking about the good stuffs because that's a yay!).

I would like to include one part of The Modern Malay Engagement that slipped my mind; exchanging of dulangs. (I am dying to say pls)

What The Engagement should be like:

• A ring for either just the girl* or both
• A cake for 8 persons with wordings “Happy Engagement xxx & xxx”
• A fruit/chocolate basket

*We have to consider the fact that guys are not like us girls. We can own 20 rings and put on all of them at one go while they just want one. So ask yourself if an engagement or wedding ring is more important for him to wear every day. And if I hear any MMGs saying things like, “How would people know that he is engaged or not if he doesn’t wear a ring?” WOW. I would just have to say that you’re that insecure and that you have no trust in your fiancé which is very sad.

What The Malay Modern Engagement is like:

• A pair of rings
• A cake for 20 persons with same wordings
• A fruit/chocolate basket or both
• A *insert brand* watch
• A *insert brand* bag
• A *insert brand* wallet
• A *insert brand* something invalid
• A *insert brand* something inavlid

No one in the right mind would reject a list of gifts. No one. I would ask for 9 pairs of shoes if I wanted to and have no love for my relationship. Not because he can’t afford them but why am I burdening my other half to get things for me? He is not even my husband yet and already I am driving him away with my wants and not needs. Are you that incapable of getting your own things or the kind that needs a man to get you all of those? Please keep in mind that engagement is not even mandatory in the first place, and ask yourself what is the reason (not excuse) the both of you do it in the first place.

Remember we talked about keeping it simple and classy.

Lastly, MMGs these days including their parents (not sure if this hereditary) are so worried what people think. Why do you feel the need to show people what you have or going to have? If I ask for only the minimal and very important things, will people say that Baobei and I are poor? *boo hoo* You want to know why you are so worried about people talking about you?

It is because you did a damn good job at talking about other people's happy events.

That is why you’re so damn worried what people might say about your own. I, for one, never come for an event to see what was on the dulang or if the ring has a huge ass diamond sitting on it. I don't care. I am happy for my person, take pictures, compliment her/him and makan. I love makan you know? If you feel the need to do outdo others because this status is more important than anything else in the world, well wake up sweetheart.

I can never understand MMGs who cannot be happy for people. If you can't be happy for what I have, you are certainly not welcome to celebrate my happy day(s) with me. With the hint being said, do you know what happens during a merisik? Keep close because I will tell you what I thought would happen and what actually happened during mine.

Yes, mine.
*screams YAY