The one where I shift...

Since the plan is to stay with our parents until we get our own place, we have started shifting beds/cupboards/clothes. Baobei has not painted his room for the longest time ever, so we decided a face lift is what we need.

Baobei wanted "earth" colours but eventually decided on 2 shades of grey and scarlet pink, which is very unusual of him haha. He was all "It's okay B you don't need to help. I will be staying up until 6am to do it,"yeee banyak until 6am. When I dropby after tea with my NIE friends, Ibu-Baobei was already helping him to paint because she says he is too slow.

Baobei was like, "How do people do this as a job?" and he said "B, our house we just get people to paint ok?" It costs 1.2k to paint the whole house but he says it is worth the money. I was telling him Bangla bawah block actually can do it at a much cheaper price. Hahah, this will be a discussion when we have on our place (which another viewing this week!).

So after 2 days of painting, we are done. Now left to bring my things over, which is not much since we are going back on weekends and school holidays. The more pressing issues is to make space for him at Serangoon. HAHA. My room is tiny but I know it will be cosy.

TAK SABAR NAK KAHWIN MAMAAAAA.

The one where the haus agent failed...

Disclaimer: Haus here is not thirsty in Malay but is pronounced as house. International slang haha. So please don't read it wrongly ok.

I think I have mentioned that we are looking into resale flats

1. Size of the house (< 103 sq m)
2. We want to kaup (take) as much money we can from gahment (no grants if bought directly)

and found one which we went for viewing the Monday after the entry. We managed to set the appointment and got both our parents to have a look at the house with us. Reason being? Our parents have a better eye for houses since they bought and sell quite a few themselves. 

So anyway, we met the haus agent whom I shall name M (for merepek) under the block. We found out that the house is on the 2nd floor. Already a disappointing factor because I wanted odd number and a higher floor, preferably. So we entered the house and then, she brought us around and started talking about the little details. You know haus agent right? They speak only the good things and hope you don't notice the bad things.

TBH, the house is in an Ok condition. If we bought it, we would redo the kitchen, toilets and paint the whole house. And get new set of air-con. We noticed some corners of the walls very worn out but we were OK with it. But M started her merepek-ness, it was hard not to cringe.

After looking around the house, M took out a floor plan of the house to show us that it is 105 sq m. Then she pointed to the front door on her floor plan and showed us the front door of the house. I mean, ummm? I can tell where is the front door or master bedroom without looking at the floor plan, thank you very much.

Then M started asking us how we felt about the house and we told her about what we felt that needed to be done. So the price was put 470k which was out of our price range but the ad says negotiable so we are just trying our luck. So we told her 470k was something we can't afford right now because we are still building up our CPF, especially Baobei, and we are looking for something lower. 

So then M asked if we have done our HLE, and I told her that we have not as we needed Baobei's December pay slip to complete the HLE. But I told her based on our calculations on HDB website, we are eligible for 3XXk only. Guess what M said?

"But both your combined income is more than 5k right? And you have no debts for cars/personal/study right? I think HDB can offer you 400k for HLE."

Wait, a haus agent is telling me that the loan calculator designed by HDB is not working right? How can what I calculated and what she thinks HDB can give me is a HUGE difference? Yes based on experiences of people who have or in the midst of buying houses said that the HLE will be slightly more than you calculated. But we are talking more than 40k difference here. Merepek right? If she authorised the housing loan at HDB, I think our housing will be in trouble or people work to pay for house only.

Nevermind. It doesn't stop there.

M said her seller is not in a hurry to sell and that they are not buying after they sell because they will be staying at a relative's. B U L L S H I T.

We found out that her client is divorced and the woman has already remarried. You know what that means right? Court gives you a time frame to sell off the unit to return the CPF to it's respective owners meaning in this case, the woman and her ex husband. After all, I am pretty sure her ex husband would not like the current husband to stay in the house that ex husband paid his share right? So the not hurry to sell, I call bullshit. 

M said she can try 450k for us but any lower can be hard since the ex husband has his price. When we told her that we definitely do not have the money to pay at 450k, she said this, "Why don't you loan from the bank the excess and then rent out your house for awhile to pay the bank?" Seriously I am starting to question her credibility. How can we rent out when we just purchased the unit? There is a rule that we can only rent out after 4 or 5 years living in the unit. And she is a haus agent and I am just a potential buyer, but I know rules better than she does (or she's just trying to make her sale).

So nevermind. M continued her selling tactics on us saying "There are couple of people who have viewed and are interested." Sorry, you posted this ad for awhile and yet no one has bought it. You texted me and arranged a viewing the day you came back from holiday (no rush eh?). You reposted the ad a month later (even after I have viewed and you waited for our HLE). So the many potential buyers you speak about? I call B U L L S H I T.

Then M decided to play 'dirty'. She said and I quote, "People are taking advantage that it is low floor and only Malays can buy over the unit." No darling, people are not taking advantage but it is to our advantage. Know the difference. Yes, people prefer high floors that's why low floors sell at a cheaper price and that is a fact. Malays can only buy the unit because our quota is not filled and that is just too bad for that particular flat. Anyway, it is known that Melayus like to stay near their kelompok (I am not sure of the word/spelling and everyone is asleep haha so just take it as it is) in Jurong, Tampines, Clementi, Pasir Ris, Bedok, Simei but very little of us in Serangoon and Bishan. So it is our advantage.

Since the sentence didn't move us at all, M went one step further. She said, "Anyway my seller is not well to do. You saw that right? So poor thing if you were to buy it at a much lower price." SHE DID NOT JUST GUILT TRIP US. Yes, the seller has a mother, 4 kids and a maid which equals to 8 people. Yes, she can no longer afford the house and needs to get a cheaper house. But I am not buying a house at your price out of pity, we just don't have that kind of money. Or rather, we are not willing to pay more than what we can afford. But you don't say things like that to guilt us. I am sorry things are not going well for them, but we are not starting our marriage with a debt because we pity them. So if we take bank loan, they senang and we susah kirakan ok ah? DON'T PULL THIS SHIT ON US. If we had the 450k budget, trust me we would have taken it already. But we don't and you know it!

We were seriously unhappy with the way she worked but we liked how big the house is and how close my parents would be. So after we got the results of our HLE (within 3 days if you don't count weekends, thank you Yvonne for helping get it done ASAP!), we texted her

Btw, did you notice how her story change? From 'not in a hurry to sell because they are not buying' to 'they need to buy a flat after selling'.

M thinks she is the only one who can play hard to get? I see potential haus agent qualities in me. Haha! But I was told to play it cool even though I really love to get the unit. The master bedroom toilet is huge and we could fit a bath tub, that's why I keep dreaming about me soaking in the tub.

Anyway, M replied me the next day,

And that is why I am blogging about this now. The deal didn't fall through and amazingly, I was/am ok (I am more attached to houses than Baobei are). For me, I am pretty sure there are reasons why we didn't get the house like maybe the house isn't good for us or we probably spend more money trying to fix it. Like I said, we are not in the rush but it will always be nice to have our own place and currently the resale market is a buyer's market. Hopefully they will get a buyer that can meet their pricing so the 'not well to do' (according to M) seller can buy a house. It will be funny if weeks later, M would text me and say that the seller accept out offer. Who knows by then we are actually looking at other houses (haha since what I said is a total bull).

What's our next plan? Since our HLE is valid for awhile and I seriously love haus shopping, so the haus hunting continues. Buying from the open market is really fun. Instead of being the obsessed girl who keeps refreshing the BTO page to check if the unit we want is still available, I spend a lot of time on STproperty and PropertyGuru (bookmarked them!) page checking for 4A houses in Serangoon and Bishan.

Til the next haus that may potentially be ours, xo.

The one where we were interviewed...

ROMM interview got pushed back because Baobei is on course and they are not opened on weekends. So we finally managed to grab some time in between his course and Baba's work to go for our long overdue interview at ROMM. Found on ROMM's website the things we needed:

Basically for non-baggage cases, you just need to bring your IC (and if you have gone for kursus, bring so you don't have to bring on the hari nikah). But if not, you need all the other relevant document to support 'your case'.

We share with ROM so there were lots of couples of different races, so make sure you get the correct queue number!

Apparently, you can't book your timing with the tok kadi there. You just have to try luck. We reached about 10am and there were tons of Malay people, and we were like "Crap, should have come earlier." Turns out, those Malay people are here to for 2 sets of solemnization that were happening at ROMM itself.

So we entered and took a queue number at the little machine at the side of the Information Counter. 2 minutes later, we were called into the office to have the officer very the details we have filed if there are any typo or if we have any changes to our name, address, mas kahwin, hantaran, address of the solemnisation etc. We (Baba, Baobei and I) produced our IC, in which she put in the folder and asked us to wait for the tok kadi to call us in for our interview in the room.

Baba went him for his part of the interview. During the interview, he asked if

1) I am his real daughter (not anak angkat or luar nikah) 

2) If he consents the marriage (he likes Baobei or not) 

3) If he is going to give me away or the tok kadi will.*

*Baba had no problem when he gave away Kakak to arwah Abang Faizal but he was nervous when he gave away Kakak to Abang Ridz. So he suggested for Abang to do it for me. He asked Tok Kadi in which he pushed the blame on me, saying it was me who wanted it HAHAH. Thank Ba, I got the backlash from the Tok Kadi who said that Baba is healthy and fit, and he should give me away not Abang.

After which, it was our turn for the interview. First Tok Kadi verified with Baobei about his details and confirmed that he is single. Then was asked if he took religious class outside (don't worry if you don't because he won't give you that judgemental look). Then he was asked to angkat sumpah. Then it was my turn with the same set of questions and angkat sumpah.

That's it. All ready to kahwin already!!!

We took about 20 minutes for the whole thing. We were lucky because the Tok Kadi that was interviewing us was supposed to go and nikahkan the 2 set of couples that we saw earlier in the midst of our interview.

Then took the rare opportunity to be out in the morning for KFC breakfast

Look at our happy faces! So much love for AM Twister & porridge.

After that we headed off to OG to checkout bedsheets and towels since the bed will be delivered sometime soon! Who knew bedsheets shopping can be so much fun. Will keep that for our next virtual date.

Oh, woke up to this:

Next, someone is going to congratulate on being married! I will love that more.

Til 12.13pm, xo

The one where we chose the untraditional...

I think I have mentioned quite a fair bit, how much of an unusual bride-to-be I am and I don't think my future MIL has expected a DIL like me. I mean, I am pretty sure she knew I was different than typical Malay girls but I don't think she expect me to be someone who is not big on grand weddings and hantaran (haha).

So how did we eh?

With The Wedding to be just a few days away, I think I have "the right" (because nanti people sakit hati and say I have not kahwin so got no say. Pls sista!) to give a little insight of how and why we did the things we did, and how it will help the future newly weds to make decisions. Maybe when I am a "pengantin lama", I will have better things to contribute, but remember that I am not the conventional kind of bride.

Weddings are meant to happen once in your life (In Shaa Allah), and yes it is a day we want to remember that for the rest of our lives. It is very important, therefore there is a lot of planning. With that being said, a lot of money is involved in the process of getting married. But remember this: A wedding is a ONE (two for some) day event. People tend to get too caught up in something that happens over a day than the things that will happen when your wedding is over. Things we talked about (and I am very lucky to have Baobei who is in-sync with me):

1. Size. The more people you invite, the more food you have to cater and the bigger venue to seat/accommodate your guests (especially during lunch/dinner time). 
2. How grand you want your wedding. It can mean many things like kompang ($500-900) /malay dance ($500-800) /live music ($1k and above) /photobooth ($400-800) /dessert booth ($500 onwards) & it can also means the kind of bridal ($1k can get you either 1 or 3 pairs of outfits, depending on who) /caterer* ($10-15/pax) /decor ($1.5k-10k). *My take is always to splurge on food. People will ALWAYS remember good food.
3. Dulang exchange = $ for the dulang decor ($15/30 per dulang) + $ for gifts (usually more of the high end brands like channel and chanel). IMO redundant. You can buy gifts anytime, darling. + You have to transport the dulangs to a safe place after the nikah. All these barang leceh.

Anyway, whatever I have to say is not really important because I am a bride-to-be of an small, intimate wedding. I don't invite every Malay person I know. I am especially not a fan of splurging all my savings on a day because up til now, I still cringe at the thought that we both have spend almost 10k each for The Wedding. 20k can bring us to Santorini, Bora Bora, Maldives, Brazil, Italy (I heard there are so many awesome beaches) and Africa or it could buy us the 9k mattress that I was lying down at Sealy store (sigh, my back would be eternally grateful to me) & our 2a bike. But I love the fact I don't need a videographer because with a wedding this small, I will remember The Wedding for the rest of my life because we will get time to mingle with our guests.

For savings part, after we have gotten the quotations from our vendors (which we split right smack in the centre) we knew how much money was needed. You take the amount that you need + $2k. Why? This is a wedding, there will bound to have unexpected costs and it is always great to have cash in hand for these kind of emergencies.

Most importantly when it comes to money, always have ALL the money needed to cover all your wedding costs.

NEVER, EVER RELY ON 'DUIT SALAM' (ang bao) TO COVER YOUR WEDDING COST.

If you do that, shame on you. It is as if you're expecting your guests to pay for your wedding (like buying tickets to attend), and that from the start is not right. Your niat (intention) for having a wedding is to have important people celebrate this happy life-changing event in your life, not to help pay for it. You are clearly not financially responsible if you expect people to pay for your own wedding. If you can't afford to pay for the kind of wedding you have envisioned, then don't have it. It is as simple as that. The mistake people make is to expect the duit salam to cover your costs. Don't make it so grand just because you want your wedding to be better than the last BTB's blog that you read. Honey, it doesn't work that way. This is not a competition so snap out of it! I know of people who count their duit salam the night after the event because they need to pay off wedding debts. Don't start marriage with a debt. It will just stir up unhappiness for just a one day thing.

Yes, today is your wedding day and you're the princess. Besok? Masih princess ke? Sorry, you are someone's wife who still owe vendors money. Not very princess-y eh?

I am very proud that Baobei and I have paid all our vendors in full (well, the money is ready just the appointment dates are in late December). So whatever we get from our guests is a bonus, not so much of mengharapkan. Our niat is for our close friends to be there and have good food. Though for me, the hardest was to forgo kompang. I fell in love with void deck wedding with kompang, when Kakak and Arwah Abang Faizal got married back in 2011, and I knew I wanted something like that. But I know I don't have that kind of money to spend.

Another tip to save? Open a separate account with another bank (I love UOB!) and transfer a specific amount of money to that account on the day of your pay day. And keep the ATM card stashed in your house and don't bring it out. We will both keep the accounts even after getting married as our personal savings for our shopping & holidays, while having a joint account is strictly for house + babies.

But if you're asking me how did we decide to get married? It was back in 2011 when I set my mind to settle down by 2015 (and I like odd numbers, though not 5 but I can't wait til 7) because I wanted to have kids at the age where I still have the energy to run after them. So when I was getting to know Baobei in 2012, I told him from the start that I wanted to get married in 2015 and if he wasn't looking for that, he can take his leave because I am not interested to date around. Thankfully, he stayed. Look at us now, getting married in less than 46 days time (oh, you will know when exactly as the date approaches).

See you tomorrow at 12.13pm xo

If blogging is my full time job, I am pretty much fired from it.

I didn't realise how much things I need to do for the shifting (Serangoon to Jurong & vice versa), wedding, honeymoon and #MPKgirlboss that will be running after we are back from honeymoon. On top of that, nobody tells a bride-to-be how much things run through your mind in the middle of the night.

Anyway, we went for our first house viewing but I will keep it until we are done with HLE (today or tomorrow, YAY!) and discussion of price before I blog about it because I have A LOT to talk about.

Right now, I promise our virtual dates will continue tomorrow at 12.13pm

The one where people will ask about babies...

I am sorry if you were waiting for #MPKvirtualdateat1213pm today. If you must know, I am a huge procrastinator and entries are only written at about 1030am on that day. So when something comes very unexpected, our virtual dates get pushed back ok?

Like today, I found out that I have become AuntyKatt and Baobei has become UnclePek (haha from his IG name). My very close gf, Li, whom I met through blogging (she read my entries while we were in poly when I was in a 'blogwar' I think) and we became friends then.

Li is the first person whom I am close to who got married, got a house (in the process) and pregnant. So she's my go-to. So I visited Li a week before she gave birth, and this woman was craving for chocolates. I, on the other hand, couldn't say no and got her a whole bunch that lead to a 3.372kg baby!

So yesterday, she was texting me about how she was 3cam dilated at 12pm and at 5pm, she was stuck at 5cm and had to take epidural. Texted her at 8pm-ish and she was still in pain but baby still inside. At 10pm-ish, I called her because she didn't reply me and she didn't pick up (I later found out she was pushing haha). Close to 11pm, she texted me

I'm a mom!

I can't describe how happy I am for Li. From how they wanted to wait until the house, to how disappointed when she had her period, to "I AM PREGNANT!", to "It is going to be a boy!" to all those baby scans and comes to this. I am such a happy AuntyKatt.

So here's Eman Zuhayr

Grumpy kid this little one. Only 2 days old and you already know how to be so grumpy. His nose + lips like the mummy and hair just like the daddy. HIS HAIR SO LEBAT!!! Too adorable this one. But here's my fabbret feature of his

Eh hello Eman, can you please explain to me where you get the dimple from? Both your parents don't have. Your grandparents don't have. I bet you must have taken from me when I keep touching your mummy's tummy right?

What a heart breaker at such a young age.

Anyway since yourtea had a CyberMonday sale, I got Li this to try:

BREAST FRIEND TEA!

Such a cute name. I got to know yourtea from Li who initially wanted to try one of their teas and I got really fascinated and ordered my very first Tiny Tea Teatox which I did a review and never did a follow up haha (I really am sorry haha). You can read all about it but this is supposed to help mummies with their breast milk flow. I think it is such a fun gift! It smells funky though (funkier than tiny teatox).

Anyway along with the loot, I got 3 more types of teas. 2 as gifts for 2 separate dearies that I will be meeting up to give them. 

1st up: Skin Magic Tea

2nd: Happy tea

I am super fascinated by the names! I don't really know how much these teas help but I think the name itself can play a huge part like a placebo effect kind of thing. Where you think this thing is going to make your skin clear or happy, and you actually "see" your skin clearer or you "feel" happier. I am such a sucker for these kind of things so can't wait to give them to the respective owners!

Lastly, I have been a fan of Tiny Tea Teatox and although I never did a follow up review, I know there's one thing that this tea has done for me that I am eternally grateful for; Energy. I am always on the move so I am damn lethargic in the mornings but at work, I no longer find a need to nap anymore. I have no intention to be tiny, so the part where it is supposedly to help me loose weight is not something I was looking out.

But since, I am soon to be married and be a wife, Tiny Tea Teatox is no longer an option for me. Why? Because it is said to not drink when you're pregnant/trying to get pregnant. Okay, breathe first. Let me introduce you to my 2015 tea: (when I say 2015 means I drink in 2015 onwards after the wedding, so pls sista)

Before you all go judging me for being "overly enthusiastic" or "kau tak tahu sabar', please chill your tits. There are people who are only getting married in 2016 and 2017 but they lagi enthusiastic about bookings and securing their vendors likka bridezilla when there's no rush since there's ample time. Whereas for me, babies can happen already after our wedding.

Why did I get myself Fertility Tea? 

First and foremost, let's sidetrack a little. Even before our wedding which is next month, we already had questions like "Are you guys planning to have one immediately?" 

I think I have mentioned it before (somewhere in the blog) that both our parents do not allow us to plan for our first kid, and we should just go with the flow. If we have, Alhamdulilah, rezeki. If don't have, we can always try again in the bedroom haha. Both of us are agreeable to whatever our parents said so baby can be in our 2015 plan, In Shaa Allah.

Thus, I am finding a substitute for my Tiny Tea Teatox since baby may or may not happen for us, and I don't want to do more harm to our potential baby so I am playing it safe. I am not like preparing for my body and hope to get pregnant like one month into the marriage but I am open to when Allah is willing to give us one.

1. My main purpose is to find a substitute to Tiny Tea Teatox because I love drinking teas and will need a replacement when I discontinue it.
2. The sub reason is to always prepare the good for our future kid so he/she can have an awesome time in my womb for the next 9 months. Anyway this tea is still good for me, regardless pregnant or not.

So I am finishing my last few teabags of Tiny Tea Teatox before I bid it goodbye until I have given birth to our first kid which we will never know when. Anyway, I think drinking Fertility Tea is super cool because if people are going to ask if I am pregnant or when am I ever going to be pregnant after our wedding/honeymoon, I can make them swallow the tea bags on my behalf. I am planning a heartless cold reply like I did with the "How much is your hantaran" question. 'You shut up, you have no say' kind of attitude to the same Makciks KPO. Worst case scenario, I can always look forward to the throwing of teabags or hot tea. Oh wells. Hahaha.

I think it will be amazing to have kids just by looking at how Li went through hers. It must have felt amazing to be placed at the highest level a woman can be; which is to fight between life and death to give birth to a little human being.

Anyway if you enjoy teas, you should get them especially when they have discounts. You should get people to buy together because you can share the 10USD shipping fee and the teas arrive in 3-4 days time (because they fly from Hong Kong). There's other cool teas that you should check it out, including Sex Tea. Knowing me, I will just order it for the fun of it. Yup, I am that crazy. But oh wells, you will always be surprised by the shits I do.

If you're asking me if the Fertility Tea works, I bought for 2 persons. 1 is currently pregnant while the other is still trying. So you will never know eh? Kuasa Tuhan.

Til our virtual date in 12 hours and 13 mins time, xo

The one where I become makcik saman for awhile...

Sorry for those who came by on weekends for our virtual date but I realised I can't be around on weekends because it is the only time Baobei and I have to do wedding/shifting/honeymoon stuff before we meet less nearer to the wedding. So it is insane but I have received so many people tweet/facebook/IG/whatsapp me about #MPKVirtualDateAt1213pm and how they never missed a date. Heh. I have been having a steady of over 500 visitors daily. 

Anyway, my friends complain they know more about me via my entries than me telling them personally. Haha. To be fair, they know the finer details when I meet them and it is always nice to hear their opinions.

All that aside, Adam Hawa Kreatif was pretty okay vendor to work with. We picked them for 2 reasons:

1. They were cheap (1 card = RM1)
2. More reasons to have good food while collecting cards (read: bubur taiwan)

Anyway, we waited for awhile for them to give us the first draft in which I got really angry because they had a dateline and did not keep to it in which they also didn't update us. I also thought they didn't put in much effort into it, and here is why

DO YOU REALLY WANT US TO PUT A RED HEART THAT IS LIKE COPY + PASTE FROM SOME CHILDREN'S COLOURING BOOK?

I didn't know if I should laugh or cry or do both simultaneously but I told them that the heart shape wasn't the same one we agreed on. Bridezilla moment! Then I decided, forget it. I asked them to pass me the whole file and I chose something else and got my brother to edit it to this:

which is the final and printed version, duh. Haha.

The free map! Again, thank you to the lovely couple who did extras/didn't collect. 

But 2 days before the day we planned to go in JB with Baobei's family and our scheduled pick up date with Adam Hawa Kreatif, I got this:

And I am like "Nah-ah. This ain't happening." So I what'sapped them to inform how important this is and to keep me in the loop of the latest updates whenever.

And maybe that's why the night before the JB day, I got this

at 1.36 freaking AM. Normally I would have been pissed as hell to be thinking/worrying about wedding at this ungodly hour, but this was just a sweet exception.

So long story short, we managed to get everything done within 3 weeks. From looking at their designs and packages, to choosing the design and finer details of the card, to getting the first draft, to final draft, to hope the printer is ok and lastly, picking them up. There were definitely hiccups and I almost wanted to go with the heart shaped card just because it is ugly-hilarious and I can imagine people cringe just looking at the card but I also can't bear that to be the first impression of my wedding. Hahaha!

Over the last 2 days, I have been asking close friends for their address/meeting up with me since I have a strict guest list of 50 only. Means about 25 friends and their +1. How I decide on my guest list was simple. I asked myself this, "Would it matter if this person comes to the wedding or not?" If I will be upset that the person didn't turn up means the person should be there. If I feel indifference, means it is okay and that we aren't that close.

What I have a hard time comprehending is people who have a huge number 800-1200 guests. They practically invite every Malay person they know. Makcik bus stop lah, pakcik jual daging lah, kawan time childcare dulu, kawan yang tolong belikan seaweed chicken time recess, kawan yang bagi copy homework time Social Studies. Macam macam lah. Then at your wedding, people will have a hard time finding seats or pressured to give up their seats. Your close ones can't even take their time to spend this day with you, and I certainly don't want that. I know of such incident where people who just arrived and then left because it was just too packed! Then there are times when you are changing outfits but your friends are waiting but they have to give up seats so they eventually leave? But if that's your thing, I am cool. It is after all how you want to remember your wedding day. (Gurame has 320 seats and we have 300 guests = SWEET)

Unlike me, Baobei has like tons of close friends that he would love to invite but can't due to our intimate wedding. I, on the other hand, was having a hard time keeping a conversation going with my secondary school mates at Hana's wedding last Saturday. (Oh, Hana is also my baker for the wedding and has been the baker for our engagement and birthday cakes.) So I am the type of person who will avoid eye contact of people I know when I see them outside to avoid awkward conversations but Baobei will just say hello to everyone he knows. The difference between us. Haha. 

Okay, today is kind of a big day. So I am going to spend the first half of my afternoon writing 'surat saman' to my friends and buy stamps. This is actually one of the fun things about weddings!

Til tomorrow's virtual date, xo.

The one where I sleep with my best friend...

Mak has been bugging us to go find our bed because the wedding is around the corner and we will definitely not have anytime to do such errands with so many other things to do. Furthermore Baobei will be out for course which means doing on weekdays is not possible at all. Oh, the bed is a wedding gift from Mak to us.

So thank you Mak for this amazing gift you have given us. May Allah bless you with good health!

We need food before the bed hunting starts right? Bali Thai for the only greatest woman.

So our plan is to walk around all the boutiques before deciding on one. So we entered the first shop (which I honestly can't remember) whose mattress are made in the US. They were very reasonably priced and met our budget of 3k with quite a fair bit of change. We opted for the storage under with bed with drawers, matters with 'hotel standard' and pillows that are super fluffy. Mak was bargaining (I think she was beginning to lose sight of our initial plan) until the guy upgraded everything he could possible can. But we wanted to look around still so we said we have to go 'makan' first. 

We went 2 shops down and entered Sleep Boutique that carries Sealy mattresses and woah, are they just damn bloody expensive or what. From the start Mak has been telling us that mattress should be an investment because we use it every day. The headboards are too pretty (again didn't take pictures) but their bed frames are made by third party and they sell them together or just the mattress itself. We were very close to choosing this pretty headboard (go down and see for yourself!) with a mattress that fit our budget of 3k when we saw this baby

The bed frame is awesome right? It feels like a huge platform. Then we saw the price and we were like "We so can't afford this right now." But the bed frame is cheaper than the others in the room. Reason being is that this frame was custom made for a customer but he/she wanted a shade or 2 lighter so this has been sitting there for 2 months? So if we decide to get this, it will be at dirt cheap.

The sides can also be used for sitting down. You know when you come home and you don't want to shower yet but you can't lie down because you're smelly? That's the place for it.

And fab 'side table' which has a drawer!

Thanks to whoever custom made this because this is wayyyy bigger than most storage bed in the market which means our bed is higher and we can store bigger things underneath. Say what! Now you know where to notti corner for Baobei is at right? Hahaha.

Initially we both didn't voice out when we saw the bed frame because it looks expensive, okay in our defense everything looks mad expensive. Then I was like "This is nice right?" in which Baobei was "Yeah I liked it when I saw it just now but I thought mahal." Luckily we asked and it is such a steal!

Then the mattress is a limited edition that just came in a week ago. This series is called

'SEALY POSTUREPEDIC UNICASED LIMITED EDITION - LANDMARK'. 

The name itself is woah. The mattress itself is already close to 3k, but we were like "We are going to sleep in this for the next 5-8 years." So guess who has an awesome bed with a awesome bed frame?

Baobei has already decided which side of the bed he wants. He actually chope it after we decided to get this. But too bad Baby. This bed is going to reach 1.5 weeks before the wedding so guess who gets to sleep on your side and warm your side of the bed? HAHAH. In which he said that when I go to work, he will switch the mattress! Horrible this one. Then we compromised to "Only when I am on duty, you get to sleep at my side." Pffft, no fairness in the world!

I am not going to describe the finer details about how awesome the mattress is because the name speaks for itself. And there are a handful of hotels that use their mattress (go google) so if you have been to that hotel and wonder where those awesome mattress come from, now you know.

Okay, I am off to get my hair done and if it turns out well you probably see me post it like Sunday. If not I will probably bitch about it and freak out because who does shit to their hair when the wedding is next month?

Me.

Til our next virtual date tomorrow, xo.